by Deborah Anne Quibell | 14-02-2015

When you find yourself in turbulent waters
Tie a rope to your center
and loosen your hold

Your tight grip
only fastens to fear
and chokes your flexibility

Trust the buoyancy of your heart
It knows these waves
and the elasticity it takes
to float through the storm

In your moment of distress
don’t frantically stiffen
but invoke the deep malleability
that only the holy wisdom
of the heart
may beckon.

There is no other rescue
in this moment, my darling
Than this.

Until the storm subsides.

A wonderful sports coach once told me, “In order to respond efficiently, a muscle must be relaxed if it is to contract. When tense, we cannot tense further and so are impotent to respond.” 

I have begun to see that this same wisdom can be applied to the psyche—to a mind amidst the turbulent waters of distress. In many spiritual traditions, they teach us that life moves in cycles. We hear the phrase “this too shall pass” again and again, and the question arises of how to move into a more felt experience of that ancient wisdom. How do we find the calm within during the tumultuous cycles of our life?

During a recent difficult phase, I began to notice a strong, internal tension within me during my meditation practices. The calm center I have come to find such solace within seemed to be a far distance away from me. I began to wonder what had accumulated between me and inner peace, when a quiet question emerged:

Why am I so tense and holding on so tightly if I am truly seeking solace and comfort?

When we are trying to get comfortable in our physical body, do we tense up? No. Obviously, tension is the opposite of comfort. Last time I checked, relaxation and flexibility (not tension) induce comfort. I began to see, clearly, that the tension in my mind was making me impotent to respond effectively to the distress in my life. From a very unconscious corner, fear had, somehow, crept in, and was affecting my ability to soften, to breathe, to open to possibility.

Many spiritual writings posit that fear stands in opposition to love. If I want to move out of this inner tension, then I need to invoke the mysterious wisdom of the heart. Certainly, sitting right smack in the center of my tense mind, and willing myself to relax wasn’t going to work for me. I had to get out and go somewhere else.

My teacher once told me, when challenged, “you must flow like water” (Master Choa Kok Sui). Water is malleable; it bends, twists, turns, and flows around obstacles. It is soft, not rigid. These are the qualities found in the heart. Water is often associated with the astral or emotional body. These are tricky seas to invoke, as we can often drown or become overwhelmed in our emotions. The purely emotional heart can sink into desperation and despair.

However, there is another heart, which is often referred to in esoteric teachings as the spiritual heart. This heart knows transcendence. It is buoyant and deeply accepting. The eyes of the spiritual heart see the necessity of life’s vicissitudes to develop inner strength and transformation. It is this heart that unravels the tensions of the mind, and frees us from the entrapments of fear. It is in this heart, that we can find rest and comfort amidst the thunderstorms around us.

Of course, it isn’t with one internal movement that all tension and fear and grief melt away. But, perhaps, they begin to soften. Perhaps, we begin to soften. And we float a little closer to the surface. With softness, comes less tension. And with less tension, like a muscle, we can respond more effectively.

This is a practice, a constant choice, a movement that we make again and again, as the ever strong patterns of our thoughts and mind attempt to survive.

But more than ever, in difficult cycles, we must trust the buoyancy of the heart, and choose that to be our life-saver amidst the threatening waves of our human existence. When I chose this practice, somehow, I reconnected to the inner peace and contentment of the ever-calm waters of our true, spiritual nature, and found my way again. A soft smile appeared and lightness returned even though the external difficulties remained.

“The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

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Author: Deborah Anne Quibell

Author: Deborah Anne Quibell

As a writer and editor, Deborah Quibell believes in the pure magic of words. She is deeply interested in what inspires and moves us creatively. She sees writing, not only as way to tap into our true voice (and bring our unique messages out into the world to touch others) but also to discover un-accessed parts of ourselves. A lover of mystery, poetry, imagination, and language, she lives for moments of captivation and is mesmerized by the human heart—our capacity to love, connect, and express. She works, as a writer, healer, and teacher, towards creating a world re-enchanted and re-ensouled. She is currently pursuing her PhD in Depth Psychology, with an emphasis in Jungian and Archetypal Studies from Pacifica Graduate Institute, and teaches meditation, yoga, and pranic healing. She now resides in Amsterdam, where she writes columns for various publications and plucks away at her dissertation. She can often be found with a cappuccino in one hand and a green juice in the other.